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HOW?

Once you have a strong and compelling 'WHY' and you have defined your BIG 'WHAT', you need to start figuring out HOW you can accomplish the WHAT. One thing you probably want to avoid is to sit down for hours, days, weeks, months or even years ONLY planning and thinking HOW you are going to get to your WHAT. Planning and thinking alone will not get things done or lead you to your WHAT.

In regards to figuring out HOW, you can TALK to someone who has done what you are about to do before. If your mouth is too heavy to talk, watch them and copy some of the things you think makes them achieve the 'WHAT' you want (Probably not the Best Approach, it may be better to combine asking them and watching them). Remember your WHAT should be an OUTCOME not just something you do. Don't plan, plan and plan and then wait for the perfect time to start DOING; that perfect moment will never come. If you can't find someone who has accomplished that 'WHAT' you seek to accomplish, read books and soak knowledge, then go ahead and apply that knowledge while watching out for a real life person to (for lack of a better word) mentor you. Be willing to make mistakes and LEARN from them so that you can grow.

Another thing to avoid is to wait till you know entirely everything about what you want to achieve before you start DOING something toward acheiving it(You can never know everything, It's just not possible). The best way to figure out 'HOW' is to learn by doing. Just Imagine, If  I waited to know everything about blogging before I started writing these posts, would I be on my 17th Post by Now? I don't think so... Or Imagine if Onada had waited until she knew everything about writing books until she started writing her novel, would she be on her 70th Novel Page by now? Nope.

Perhaps, the most important thing is that your actions and behavior have to be congruent with your WHAT. So let's say you are seriously trying to shed 25 pounds, but you eat unhealthy meals everyday and you have no work out plan, that behavior is definitely in total disagreement with the outcome of losing 25 pounds, IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN. Always check delusion at the door and be very honest with yourself. I leave you with this 'The difference between a winner and a loser is that the winner stays focused until they succeed, but the looser focuses only for a period of time'. Give your efforts time to compound, don't quit too early. "Life is Hard", but success might be 40 days away.

Above all, always use Common Sense. I don't know how to explain this one, it just always works out when you use it.

So just go and figure out your HOW by doing, getting knowledge, planning and doing again. Here is a good book to read that will help you with starting anything:

Have an Awesome Weekend and DO IT BIG!

WHAT?

So I was in San Destin, FL for the Labor day weekend. While I was out there, I met this lady in her late 40s named Cathy. She and I happened to just start small talk and I found out that she makes a little over $1million a year in her business. Then I became more interested in what she had to say and started being more inquisitive. I asked her a few questions about how she made her consistent and predictable cash-flow every year; she answered some questions and we began to chop up some good conversation for about 30 minutes. During the course of our conversation, she used this analogy that is still stuck in my brain. She said "Mola, before you set out to go anywhere you need to know 2 things; the location of where you are and the address of where you are going. After getting those 2 things, you can then get directions to your destination". She even gave me an example of how she got to the resort the day before, she said that she called the hotel, asked for their address which she wrote down, she went to google maps entered her address then the hotel's address and voila she got the directions. Then she got in her car, and drove away from her house HEADING to the hotel. It's the normal thing to do right? Directions are useless if you don't know where you are going.

What Cathy, was trying to say (for my slow thinkers) is; before you put energy into anything , you want to define where you are and where you are going. The reason you need to know where you are is because you want leave where you are and start heading to where you want to be. However, if you don't define where you want to go, you will always end up back to where you were. Don't be bogged down by where you are right now, you need to focus on where you are going.

Which brings me to the WHAT. You need to define a clean picture of an outcome (yours). Define what you want to come to pass and speak it to life. Don't waste your energy on just doing anything without knowing WHAT you are doing it for.

After knowing your WHAT start heading towards it. Do you have your WHAT now? Is it BIG? You may want to go back, redefine it and make it BIG. Why?

Have you noticed that most of your goals, dreams or aspirations as an early teenager have come to pass already? (for the readers in their early to mid 20s) Now, knowing that majority of your goals will come to pass, wouldn't it make sense to define a BIG WHAT so that when it is realized, you know you are doing it BIG.  Expand your projected OUTCOME, your WHAT.

WHY?

On Saturday, I walked out of my domicile and headed to my car. Before I reached the car, I heard someone holler, "when u gonna make your next debut, ha ha", I turned back and saw Van, my neighbor and a personal trainer at the gym. I replied "I've been mad busy man". Its funny, I've been going to the gym every Monday consistently for 4 weeks. The problem is I'm always supposed to return on Tuesday and Wednesday, but I have only been able to make that happen once (the 1st week). Hence my weekly debut.

Then I started laughing inside, to myself because I know I'm full of s#!t with my inconsistency. I took it a little further and reviewed my reasons for going to the gym in the first place. Then I realized that my "WHY?" was weak (to me).

I then immediately had an aha moment (being that I figured this out by myself right?). Your "WHY" needs to be strong and compelling (enough to you) in order to stay dedicated at doing something with thorough consistency.  It creates a strong foundation before you start anything. This way, when you start feeling some never before experienced stress during the process of accomplishing something and this question pops up "why am I even stressing myself", all you have to do is reply with the compelling 'WHY'. After you answer that re-occuring question a few more times, you will charge your stress to the game.

Here are some Basic 'WHY' examples:

• Someone Works and earns Money :  WHY? Because they have to keep a roof over their head and of course there are bills to pay. You know with an ABSOLUTE conviction that if you don't come up with rent/mortgage, you will be kicked out or your house will be for-closed and you are sure that you dont want to be homeless

• A single, young woman hits 27 and she suddenly starts attending church on a regular basis: WHY? She is deeply aware that her biological time is ticking and she wants to find a husband Quick.

• A smoker stops smoking: WHY? Because his doctor advised him to stop smoking due to the TERRIBLE state of his lungs.

 

It's not the content of the WHY? that really matters, its how obsessive you are with the reason. So find your WHY today and you will stay dedicated to that thing you have been a slacker about for a while. I'm still searching for my STRONG 'WHY' to hit the gym on a consistent basis.

NOTE
If you come up with a WHY and it does not make you work your ass off to accomplish your goal, it means that the WHY is not strong enough (to you). So now you have 2 choices; you either forget that goal you wanted to accomplish or find a compelling 'WHY' that will make emotional to stay committed to accomplishing that goal.

Super Dumb Behavior.

Now, I ran across this video online and I think that any male that participates in this act is just dumb, weak and a disgrace. What stood out In this guys' case is that God laid hands on them with the quickness.... Here is the video. Unfortunately, there is always a female victim in these stupid acts...